Podcast

May 1, 2021

Your Questions Answered #8

McConnell, Kane Vast and I have been really slacking on these podcasts–the coronavirus has caused us all to make many adjustments to our lives in 2020 and those continue this year in 2021. We’ll probably talk about that stuff in a future podcast episode. We’ve already recorded the next podcast which is an interview with Aaron Darko of HealthMastery.com who you can find on Instagram . So keep a lookout for that soon too. Kane goes pretty in depth about getting your woman onto threesomes, and we give some updates on how the dating scene has been during corona-time and more including: How do women think about threesomes Reframing threesomes so girls will try it Ideal relationship frames and dynamic The power of positive reinforcement Why developing your sex skills is an easy win Use your skill...

October 23, 2020

The Red Pill "Lessons" of Will Smith?

McConnell, Kane Vast and I sat down to discuss Rollo Tomassi’s “The Red Pill Lessons of Will Smith,” an episode of his podcast where he discusses the Will Smith and Jada Pinckett-Smith “cheating” scandal. And I put cheating in quotation marks because they were separated at the time, but more on that in the podcast. It was a great conversation that got pretty emotional at times and hearing McConnell get all worked up was a big part of the fun: The manosphere and what it is structured game vs natural game outer game vs inner game The red pill female nature vs environment and technology Men’s rights activists The internet echo chamber MGTOW and why you should stay away from women Incels Why you should love feminists and they are the best thing to ever happen to men Real life...

July 25, 2020

Sona - A Journey to the Top in Asia

McConnell and I sat down with a special guest, Sona, who has been living in Taiwan for 14 years, and is so plugged into the culture that he runs a Chinese YouTube channel with over 177,000 subscribers where he talks about Chinese and American hip-hop music and culture, runs a chain of Parkour schools and has been in several movies. It’s a great conversation where we cover everything from slang and language learning to parkour to the local Taiwanese dating scene: weird Chinese slang: the meaning of “cow cunt” and “good dick” learning Chinese Sona’s origin story” A man must go on a quest, and my quest will be THERE!

July 3, 2020

We Discuss, "The Truth" by Neil Strauss

Kane, McConnell and I sat down to discuss the book, The Truth , by Neil Strauss where he talks about how he was able to hang up his player, pickup artist shoes and choose monogamy and marriage. It’s a great book, well worth reading and there is so much to unpack and learn from and plenty to think about including: How to lay down a great routine DHV – Display of Higher Value American ideas about sex, dating and relationships Let the girls get ready instead of encouraging them to be ugly Western delusions about sex and relationships The post-consent dating world of Tinder Why dating apps are not your friend Sex addiction…is it a real thing? The dangers of porn and masturbation Is it trauma or is it life?

June 4, 2020

Vonny Hangs Up Her Play Party Shoes

Kane, McConnell and I sat down with VONNY LANG to catch up on her new new lifestyle–monogamy and marriage! Who would have thought? The usual whackiness ensues in this podcast, including: Open minded dinner parties Naked yoga Vonny’s matchmaking Fire breath orgasm How she met her husband aka Superman Don’t let your ego stop you from getting the women you want Vonny’s road to monogamy Jealousy is healthy feeling Muse Vonny inspires “love” poems Who licks pussy better, men or women? How to know you’re ready for marriage What’s so great about marriage?

March 13, 2020

YOUR Questions Answered #7

I sat down with Kane and McConnell to answer questions from a Japan Lair member who is just getting started with women and has a lot of fundamental misunderstandings and internal conflicts about women, dating and sex. In addition we answered some questions from other listeners as well, and talked about a WIIIIIIIIIDE variety of topics including: How do I avoid gold diggers and money wasters? I want to find a nice, pure girl. Any tips? Why you shouldn’t sleep with “easy” girls I’m a virgin, what should you do? Any tips on avoiding ladyboys, shemales and transgenders? I’m not white, do I still have a chance with East Asian girls? What are the easiest places to meet Asian girls in Asia?

November 13, 2019

More on Relationships and How to Stay Young (And Keep Dating Young Chicks)

I sat down with Kane and McConnell to talk about a wide variety of topics. We talk more about relationships, the idea of “open” relationships, how to stay young and relevant, and of course share wacky stories from our past. In addition to that, we talked about some of our sexual preferences, some relevant personal development concepts, and of course we talked about, “game” including: How to be a black male in Korea Do you really want an “open” relationship? Friends with benefits, girlfriends and other arrangements… Is communication about everything always the best way? Adventures in compersion “Mimes are the bagels of entertainment.

October 5, 2019

Dating Multiple Girls (or Guys, If You're Into That Sort of Thing)

I sat down with Kane and McConnell to talk about a wide variety of topics, especially how to manage dating multiple people. We talk about the pitfalls, what to avoid, what to do to keep things from getting too messy and OF COURSE share some stories. In addition to that, we talked about some of our sexual preferences, some relevant personal development concepts, and of course we talked about, “game” including: Christmas in Japan Girls touching themselves and getting a hard pounding Multiple orgasms How and why to be tough on yourself but compassionate with other people Game giving you a bigger toolkit and a bigger toolkit can fix more issues Girls dating multiple guys How live streaming is like dating Find out if guys really cheat more than girls do McConnell’s fellatio taxi and fellatio...

August 13, 2019

How a "Side-Piece" Can Help Your Primary Relationship

In the last podcast we discussed how marriage affects pickup and this time when I sat down with McConnell and Kane we discuss the role of “side-pieces” in marriage and relationships and what the pros and cons are. As usual the conversation went on a lot of different bizarre, educational and hilarious tangents and you’ll learn why we think that having a side-piece is so advantageous in many relationships, including: The practical aspects of having a side piece Mini-side ho holidays keep you sane A great way to cure your scarcity Don’t think with your emotions Why and when to use a “safe word” Gives men leverage in the relationship Side girl makes you appreciate your main girl more Be a man with a plan Developing your relationship guidebook Date more people to get more...

July 25, 2019

The Pros and Cons of Marriage and Tinder

I sat down with McConnell and Kane to discuss how marriage impacts dating and relationships and all the various setups possible and then we dive into a discussion of Tinder that was sparked by an interview with Jordan Peterson on Femsplainers (linked below). We also spent some time talking about the book, Selfie , which was a book club book for our Approach Mastery boot camp alumni that charts the evolution of the ideal self from the Greeks until the present moment of personal development, and even throws in some comparisons with Asia for good measure!

July 11, 2019

Choose Your Own Adventure

This podcast was actually recorded quite a while ago but we made a shift to a new podcasting service so it’s taken a long while to get out. This one was recorded with Kane while I was in Shanghai so the audio quality isn’t quite as good as usual so please bear with us. It was a top notch discussion and in it you’ll learn: The difference between “game” and “a game” and why it’s important to understand for life and relationships What a Swiss army knife and game have in common How game lets you “choose your own adventure” Why sex with new girls is good but sex with the same girl(s) is even better How learning pickup will help you make more money How Vonny Lang deals with jealousy in swapping and swinging The real way to measure relationships...

June 5, 2019

Our Inner Ape - Part 2

This time we have a format that we haven’t used in a long time–in this session, Kane Vast and I will discuss the book, Our Inner Ape, by Frans de Waal, one of the top researchers on primate behavior and evolutionary psychology in the world. We’ll be slowing it down from the last episode which was EXTRA wild and bring up the intellectual level of this podcast a few notches, lols. If you like these kind of episodes, we can definitely do them more often. If you like it and want to see more of these,  let us know in the form below! In this session you’ll learn: Why you should read up on evolutionary psychology–even if you’re a creationist!

November 20, 2018

We Discuss "Our Inner Ape"

October 17, 2018

When Girls Go Head to Head and Adventures in S&M

This time we have a two part episode. The first part was recorded with Kane Vast while I was still in Shanghai, and the second part is with McConnell back in Taipei. This is definitely one of the more exciting Asia Hang Suite Sessions where we’ll hear all about covert cat wars (ie girls vs girl action) and McConnell’s very cougar introduction to the world of S&M as a sub PLUS we answer YOUR questions! In this session you’ll learn: The best spots for gaming girls in Asia That girls are going to be disappointed, so you might as well decide how to disappoint them for your own benefit Holiday musical chairs and how to manage multiple girls The dangers of honesty as the best policy Cat Wars!

August 15, 2018

YOUR Questions Answered #6

I was in Shanghai for a boot camp alumni’s wedding, and then I had the Art and Science of Sex Seminar and lucky for me that means I got a lot of time with our man in China, Kane Vast! And even better, that means that YOU get to hear straight from the man as we answer your questions. In this one, we talk about why you don’t want the girls that come to you, and give you a few things you can do to get your ready to approach women, PLUS: How to get out of your negative mind looops How to use real live evidence to change your mindset–it’s SCIENCE! You’re boring, and how to fix it How do I get women to come to me? Are Asian girls shy?  Maybe…maybe not Date more girls before you look for the one(s?) Be weak or get what you want–you decide Are Asian girls easy?

July 25, 2018

Control Your Thoughts, Control Your Emotions

Recently, I attended a conference for location independent entrepreneurs in the hopes of meeting some cool people and getting some knowledge to help me improve PickUp Asia. And lucky for YOU (and me) a guy named Daniel Peleg gave an amazing talk about how to manage your psychology and emotions for success in business.  Listening to the talk, I thought that you guys could definitely use these tools! Dating is tough and women know exactly how to destroy your mind.  In this session, you’ll learn how to build the mental armor you need to protect youself against the slings, arrows and heavy artillery that will come your way when you try to do better with women.

April 19, 2018

Vonny Lang's Swinging Lifestyle

Recently, McConnell has gotten into photography and found a Taiwanese-American model living in Singapore who flew to Taipei to do a shoot with him. The shoot turned into a lot more than a few pictures after she revealed that she’s a swinger and organizes swinger’s parties.  This interview is the result.  So dig in, and let us know what you think and if you have any questions for her, we’d be glad to have her on again to answer them for you. In this one, we talk about what swinging is, how she got into it, how you can get into it and more including: The pros and cons of swapping vs threesomes What it means to be vanilla in bed Best apps to meet swingers and the singles who love them The differences between swinger parties in Asia vs America How to get selected as single guy for a...

March 19, 2018

Succeed by Finding the Right People

I was in Tokyo with McConnell for the first meetup of the NEW Japan Lair, which he is leading and Kane Vast, our main man in China, who came to join us for the Tokyo Approach Mastery boot camp (Congrats to the new guys!) Despite our busy schedule and a late night emergency room visit, we found time to sit down together to record a session. In this one, we talk about how important it is to find the right people to support and help you make the changes in your life to reach your goals, including: You’re the average of the 5 people most around Outgrow the box your “friends” keep you in Why you have to yank out the emotional triggers they use to control you Upgrade your life with new mental models Why you’ll feel uncomfortable at first with the right people How to weigh the knowledge and...

February 28, 2018

YOUR Questions Answered #5

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and we ANSWERED YOUR QUESTIONS! Including: How western girls can get in on the Asian action Are Vietnamese girls where it’s at? Pass around packs–are we into sharing girls? How hard is it to pickup Korean girls? How to do cosplay, role-plays, and anal-ize girls What to do if you get caught with another girl? How to win over your girl’s friends and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] For Reference: For the latest info from us, join our newsletter at: PickUpAsia.com Pimp Bradlee – “C’mon and fuck with me!” What Kind of Girls Do Japanese Guys Like? https://youtu.

February 17, 2018

Elli on Her Open Marriage

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and a very, VERY special guest! I originally met her when McConnell went for a drink with a skinny flat chested Brazilian girl (exactly what he likes!) and she brought along her friend, Elli. While at the bar, she told me that she had been dating “her guy” for 12 years and she was hoping he would find another girl so they could have a 3-way relationship! My interest was piqued so I asked her more and ultimately invited her on the podcast so I could share all the details with YOU! In this rather longer discussion than usual we’ll discuss: What marriage really means What’s the use of relationship labels? Negotiating relationship rules What about jealousy?

December 30, 2017

Tokyo Sex Club Adventures

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and SMOOOOOOVE, a special guest from the PickUp Asia Alumni crew to talk about what it means to be attractive and McConnell and I shared our Japanese sex club adventures (separate adventures, thank god!) PLUS: how important is height? From a guy who is 168cm (5’6″) the downsides of being an attractive guy–yes, there are downsides! You don’t need excuses…you need to get out there and try Sleeping Beauty–the adult Disney land, complete with costumes How to introduce kink to your girlfriend without her flipping out and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: King Kunta Red Bull Table Sleeping Beauty SignUp for 10 Simple Steps to Get More and Better Asian...

November 14, 2017

Money Matters and Dealing with Jealousy

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and a special guest from the PickUp Asia Alumni crew to talk about money matters in dating and dealing with jealousy plus: traveling while dating—is out of sight out of mind? how to keep dating cheap when you’re broke cougar hunting for fun and profit tales from the bloody trenches by Mr. Ballz Deep aka the MILF hunter how to use (fake) jealousy to keep your relationship strong how you can beat out the competition to get and keep your perfect 10 and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: Chris Smoove!

September 29, 2017

Watch This Hot Korean Girl End Up Alone

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro to talk about texting and two videos about dating in Korea: Why we hate dogs–and the girls who love them You should try for girls that are “out of your league” and here’s why Proof that Asian girls don’t care about money! Ever wonder why she’s with that loser? Should a girl sleep with you on the first date? What messaging apps do you need to use if you want to be successful with Asian women? How often you should you text and what kind of messages should you send and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: 40 vs 1 Finding My Ideal Type Offline (Female Version) 40 vs 1 Finding My Ideal Type Offline (Male Version) When Beauty Fades https://www.elle.

June 16, 2017

YOUR Questions Answered #4

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and Mr. Right, a long time friend on the international playboy scene. Picking up where we left off last time, we finally got down to discussing the pros and cons of day game vs night game as well as: Japanese house wives gone wild! No wingman, no problem–how to go out clubbing alone Alcohol free dating–you don’t need it Living in Bangkok isn’t all fun and…what you need to know before moving there First time in Asia? Start here! How to get 9s and 10s in Asia and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: Fashion Seminar with McConnell See some great outfits you can emulate at: https://www.pickupasia.com/science-style-seminar RedpoleQ.

June 7, 2017

Your Questions Answered #3

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro for a looooooong overdue chat where we answer a bunch of questions that have been sent in by listeners recently. In this session, you’ll learn: how to get girls sexually excited at the right time–get this wrong and your horny girl will go home with someone else the right way to show interest in Asian women and answer if you can show sexual interest how to give women a squirting orgasm how to keep a good reputation at work while still meeting women if you go out with co-workers tips on working with an inexperienced “wingman” our dating coach/PUA all star lineup how to re-engage a girl on a different social network who has deleted you on a different social network why you need to make it clear to women that...

June 7, 2017

"Harem" Game and Multiple Long Term Relationships

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and Mr. Right, a long time friend on the international playboy scene. This podcast is an especially good one. In it we answer a great question from a listener and talk about “harem” game, or more typically what we call, Multiple Long Term Relationships (MLTRs) and you’ll learn: How to understand the difference between strategy and skill with women What plausible deniability is and how to use it so women feel comfortable coming to your home How to make women feel like you REALLY like them–the power of qualification How to know if a girl likes you? Check her compliance levels!

June 7, 2017

Should YOU Meet Girls in the Daytime or Out at Night?

I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro and Mr. Right, a long time friend on the international playboy scene. Picking up where we left off last time, we finally got down to discussing the pros and cons of day game vs night game as well as: Tactics for winning over in-demand girls and how long it can take How to get girls to send you naked pics Day game vs night game–pros and cons Why phone numbers are obsolete in Asia How to deal with flakes Why Instagram is better than Facebook Why your texting has to be TIGHT!

June 7, 2017

How to Meet Women, ANYWHERE

McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro came back from Kitty Spa and Tokyo and was finally able to sit down we me and Mr. Right, a long time friend on the international playboy scene. Picking up where we left off last time, we finally got down to discussing where and how to get started meeting women including: Pros and cons of online dating You’ll hear about Mr. Right’s virgin adventures The hazards of online dating–it can be a real haunted house! How to build a social circle with online dating apps How online dating can be layup city The advantages to cold approach Where YOU can meet meet women through cold approach Pros and cons of bars and lounges vs club How to cold approach women (for beginners) How to feel good about bothering people Getting past your internal...

June 7, 2017

YOUR Questions Answered #2

While McConnell was away at Kitty Spa, I sat down with the Mr. Right, a long time friend on the international playboy scene. After a long time, away from recording, we finally sat down to answer some of your questions including: getting girls from your social circle how to stay out of the friend zone maintaining long term sexual tension being the new kid on the block the problem with cockblocks easy cold approach environments because that’s where the ladies are why cold approach develops your character Korea vs Japan: differences in the sexual cultures Korean girls don’t get to have any fun? How demanding are Korean girls? and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: The Ultimate Sex Guide https://www.asiadatingexperts.

June 7, 2017

No Legs, No Arms but He Gets a Ton of Ass! Who Is This Mystery Man?

I sat down with the McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro. After a long time away from recording, we finally sat down to answer some of your questions including: The basic, foundational skills you need to be successful with women How to learn to get sexual with women (especially when you’re a virgin) Is there any benefit to sex with hookers? The right way to be aggressive–and why it’s so important It doesn’t “just happen,” especially for YOU! “There’s always some bullshit” The perfect role model for success with women and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: Hirotada Ototake PLAYER OF THE CENTURY! (Lord Byron’s got nothing on this guy!

June 7, 2017

Asia Sexcapades: Sex Parties, BDSM, Cunnilingus Competitions, and Sex Dolls

I sat down with the McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; and a VERY special guest: Julien Lacome aka GoldenBoy from MySiliconeLoveDoll.com at our crib. This time things got a little crazy in our house as we talked about some of our wilder sexual adventures in Asia including: Hong Kong’s 25 floors of whores Why you should get in touch with the local pickup community when you land in a new country Japan’s sex clubs Taipei’s Commander D sex party McConnell find BDSM on the bus Julien Lacome schools us on the blow job technique you must teach all your girls The All Japan Pussy Licking Tournament Julien’s anal only adventures McConnell gets all tied up Dealing with language barriers and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This...

June 7, 2017

From Losers to Lovers: Our Back Stories

I sat down with the USUAL SUSPECTS, McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; and Golden Fox, at our crib. This time we talked about all sorts of cool stuff including: Golden Fox on how he ended up drunk in Daegu, S. Korea—for a FULL YEAR! McConnell’s Asia love affair! How to make friends and build a social circle when you first move to Asia RedpoleQ’s first journey to Japan McConnell dials for love at 15 years old RedpoleQ on how desperation pushed him past discomfort Why you don’t need to have sex with lots of different women Is all fair in love and war? and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill The classic, MUST READ” personal development classic.

June 7, 2017

YOUR Questions Answered #1

I sat down with the USUAL SUSPECTS, McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; and Golden Fox, at our crib. This time we talked about all sorts of cool stuff including: More on 3-somes How getting graphic will help you improve your success with women “I’m a hefty guy, can I be successful with Asian women?” Are you suffering the dreaded one-itis? Girls aren’t responsive? Learn to plow! Why she has more value than you do when you meet her…and how to flip that The right way to use indicators of interest and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: One-itis the fixation by a guy (usually) on one girl who he imbues with positive qualities (that she may not possess), or whose positive qualities are imbued with such value,...

June 6, 2017

3somes: 2 Girls and YOU and How to Make It Happen

I sat down with the USUAL SUSPECTS, McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; and Golden Fox, at our crib. PLUS, we also had a special guest, Kane Vast who brought in to talk about the 3-some game–yup, 2 girls one… Hit play and you’ll get to hear about: Whacky adventures in Asia: Qataris and the ship of the desert, Hong Kong, and Japan Setting goals so you can get back into meeting women (or get started!) Baby stepping your way to success–so you don’t get discouraged and throw in the towel How to harness jealousy and fear to reach your goals Winning through entitlement–feel you’re owed, and put in the work to make it happen Why god must love ugly 3-some primer (2 girls, one guy!

June 6, 2017

Sperm Wars: Part 2

Last time, in part 1 of our discussion of Sex At Dawn , we did something a little bit different. As part of learning and improving, we do a lot of reading and I recommend a lot of reading to clients as well. Doing well in social interactions and with women is all about psychology and there’s so much to learn. Recently, I convinced McConnell to read Sex at Dawn which is a book that I found so interesting because they really interpret a lot of things very differently from the conventional view. It suggests that monogamy is actually not the norm for our hunter gatherer ancestors and points to all sorts of anthropological and biological evidence to support the view that we are indeed a sexually wild species!

June 6, 2017

Sperm Wars: Are Women Naturally Monogamous? Scientist Says "NO!"

This time, we’re doing something a little bit different. As part of learning and improving, I do a lot of reading and I recommend a lot of reading to my clients as well. Doing well in social interactions and with women is all about psychology and there’s so much to learn. Recently, I convinced McConnell to read Sex at Dawn which is a book that I found so interesting because they really interpret a lot of things very differently from the conventional view. It suggests that monogamy is actually not the norm for our hunter gatherer ancestors and points to all sorts of anthropological and biological evidence to support the view that we are indeed a sexually wild species!

May 21, 2017

You Good Enough in Bed to Keep Her Coming Back for More?

I sat down with the USUAL SUSPECTS, McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; and Golden Fox, at our crib. This time we talked about all sorts of cool things including: How to handle her concern that you’re going back to your own country Do you need to last a long time to sexually satisfy her? Find out some sexual differences between Asians and Westerners How to treat a woman after the sex is over so she comes back for seconds, thirds and beyond and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] —————————————————————– And if you want to really learn more about making sex an awesome experience for her so she keeps coming back for more, check out...

May 21, 2017

Managing Women's Emotions: Dealing with Jealousy and Insecurity

I sat down with the USUAL SUSPECTS, McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; and Golden Fox, at our crib. This time we talked about all sorts of cool things including: How to maintain relationships with Asian girls while traveling Does having sex quickly ruin your chances of having a real relationship? Why Asian girls flake and how to handle it How to deal with getting jealous The foundation for stable relationships and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Mentioned in This Episode: Sex at Dawn Read my review of Sex at Dawn on Asia Dating Experts for more details. 48 Laws of Power Get this MUST READ classic by Robert Greene. If you have a question that you want us to answer, scroll down to the bottom of this page, type it in and we’ll get to it in a future episode.

May 21, 2017

Are Asian Girls Racist?

This time, I sat down with McConnell, our resident fashion consultant and web maestro; Golden Fox; and Evan aka Socrates who worked with me to to found Asia Dating Experts, at our crib. This time we talked about all sorts of cool things including: Golden Fox talks about his text messaging disaster—don’t make this mistake! Why you shouldn’t go to Thailand Does race and ethnicity matter in dating Asia? How to get girls that are out of your league How to win at life How to stimulate the inner vagina and a whole lot more… [saf align=”center”] Internal Vaginal Stimulation Diagrams Arrow points at PFE Notes the location of the AFE and the PFE Large penis NOT required!