Using Compliance to Prevent Flaking

If girls are flaking on you, you haven't likely developed that level of compliance from the girl yet.

Whenever you request someone do something, they decide whether they value you and your relationship enough to go out of their way to do it.  It's generally a two way street in that the more compliance someone gives you, the more you're likely to give them. This is why we'd go much more out of our way for friends and family than we would for co-workers but at the same time we recognize that different people have different compliance ladders.

People considered to be "nice" will give you lots of compliance easily while for people who are "mean", even a small level of compliance is a huge leap. You can do things during the Day1 to help build compliance and generally you should be building compliance throughout the sarge and throughout the relationship.

Even a little thing like asking a girl's name is requesting compliance. You ask for her name, she can choose to give it to you. She can choose to give you a bullshit answer or she could choose to ignore you. Each of these is a different level of compliance going from highest to lowest. So if you want to get girls to meet you in your town for the Day2 you MUST concentrate on building a lot of compliance on the Day1.

This is the kind of thing you should be doing EARLY and OFTEN on the Day1 if you want to reduce your flake percentage.

Let's say you meet her at a bar. Tell her to buy you a drink. Tell her to hold something for you. Tell her to give you a back rub. Get her to kiss you on the cheek. Get her to bite you on the neck. Get her to ask other people questions for you(get information for you), etc.  This gets her used to doing things for you. Get her to agree to cook for you at your house(and make sure it's your favorite food). Tell her it's important for you that a girlfriend clean your place for you.

Usually, over the course of relationships people build the compliance slowly and organically, but what we do is push this on her, using IODs(mini-freeze-outs by giving her negative body language and teasing her by saying things like you're no fun, etc.) to punish her when we get non-compliance, and IOIs(kissing her on the check or other part of the face, squeezing her hand, smiling at her, verbally complimenting her, etc.) to reward her for compliance which speeds up the compliance building process.