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Entries in dating tips (6)

Saturday
06Mar2010

Quick Tip for Meeting Women #6: The Basics of Compliance

Whenever you request someone do something, they decide whether they value you and your relationship enough to go out of their way to do it.

It's generally a two way street in that the more compliance someone gives you, the more you're likely to give them and vice-versa. This is why we'd go much more out of our way for friends and family than we would for co-workers. 

At the same time you must recognize that different people have different compliance ladders(which is one reason that looking out for Indicators of Interest is a losers game, but more on that another time).

People considered to be "nice" will give you lots of compliance easily while for people who are "mean", even a small level of compliance is a huge leap.

You can do things during the Day1 to help build compliance and generally you should be building compliance throughout the sarge and throughout the relationship.

Even a little thing like asking a girl's name is requesting compliance. You ask for her name, she can choose to give it to you. She can choose to give you a bullshit answer or she could choose to ignore you.

Her giving you a bullshit answer is a higher level of compliance than her ignoring you and is infinitely easier to work with.  This is why if you talk to a girl for 20-30 minutes the chances of her showing up for a Day2 are significantly higher than if you only talk to her for 5 minutes--her spending time interacting with you is compliance.

So if you want to get girls to meet you for a Day2 you MUST concentrate on building a lot of compliance on the Day1.

 

Tuesday
26Jan2010

Quick Tip for Meeting Women #5: "You're a Playboy!"

When a woman asks you if or accuses you of being a playboy this is a shit test.

She's testing to see how you respond and whether you will become uncomfortable and/or obviously lie to her by pleading with her to believe that you're not.

You see, by accusing you of being a playboy this gives her an easy way to eliminate you. "I can't date that guy, he's a playboy".

So how do you handle this? There are a few ways. One of the ultimate ways to pass this kind of shit test when a girl accuses you of being something is to say:

What do you like about _______ so much?

-OR-

What turns you on so much about ______?

For example:

Her: You're a playboy
You: What do you like about playboys so much?

Her: You're short.
You: What turns you on about short men so much?

Another way to handle it is to tell her straight:

Look, I just met you and already you're trying to marry me. Relax, are you always so uptight?

In the above example, you reframe the whole situation as her being uptight, but you could also imply that she has some ulterior(and less than noble) motive.

Her: What's your job?
You: Oh...you're one of those girls who's only into guys for their money.

If you're dating several girls and she accuses you of having a girlfriend, asks if you have a girlfriend or asks you HOW MANY girlfriends you have:

Her: You have a girlfriend, don't you?
You: I have 3(or however many) girlfriends, but I'm looking for number 4. I think you could be number 4.
Her: I don't want to be number 4(or I want to be number 1)
You: We'll maybe you can be number 3. Can you cook?

Do this only if she's shit testing you. If she's just asking an honest question and you don't have a girlfriend say no, but remember that most people consider any girl you're sleeping with to be your girlfriend so it often makes it EASIER if you call them your girlfriends.

Remember that all of these must be delivered in a fun way.  Mock seriousness, for exmaple, works well.

Friday
22Jan2010

Quick Tip for Meeting Women #4: Planning Sexcalation Locations

In scheduling a girl for Karaoke for the Day2, you are trying to go straight for a Sexcalation Location(a place where sex can happen). Unless you gamed the girl really well, on the Day 1 to the point where she actually wanted to fuck you THAT DAY without triggering Anti-Slut Defense, she's going to need more comfort before she'll be willing to be fully isolated with you in an SL.

Start somewhere public that there could be no objection to(coffee shop, shopping, a park, etc.) and THEN move her to the SL later once you've built up enough comfort.

In the same way that women bring their friends for protection from doing what they want to do, but think they shouldn't women's ASD will be triggered if you set things up clumsily. Remember that it has to "just happen". If she agrees to go with you straight to a karaoke booth and the illusion of it "just happening" cannot be maintained.

Lead her to the sexcalation location after you've disengaged her critical factor(more on that later).

Monday
07Dec2009

Phase Shifting in Qualification: Quick Tip For Meeting Women #3

During qualification you should be phase-shifting and gradually increase the intensity of the phase-shift as she qualifies herself more and more.

Part of helping bring her into being more phase-shifted along with you is that you include EMOTIONAL elements into the qualification. Ask her if she's adventurous. When she gives an example of a time she was, bring out something you want the two of you two do together...

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Tuesday
27Oct2009

Get Blown or Blown Out!

Don't BE Samson - LEARN from SamsonOne-itis(noun):

1. the fixation by a guy (usually) on one girl, who he imbues with positive qualities(that she may not possess) or whose positive qualities are imbued with such value that all negative qualities are overlooked and/or rationalized away to the point that she seems to be totally irreplaceable as a potential partner for sex, dating, a relationship, marriage or all of the above.

2. a woman who a guy has one-itis for

3. (adjective) the state of having one-itis

One-itis is one of the most destructive forces known to man.  Think Samson and Delilah.  Think Bathsheba and King David.  Think Cleopatra and Marc Antony.  No matter how you look at it, the heedless chase for a particular woman has dealt a deadly blow to many a man...

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Thursday
22Oct2009

Ok, This Is Interesting - Asian Dating Superstars Reviewed ... A Product Specifically For Asian Guys!

It's not everyday you come across a product specifically for Asian men only. I mean Asians have it hard sometimes, the media's not kind on them and then there are stereotypes like having a small dick and stuff like that.

That said, some of my best friends are Asian and they are some of the biggest pimps I have ever seen. They just seem to exude confidence from their skin pores.

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