The Best Place to PickUp in Asia?

I travel in Asia...A LOT.  In the past 12 months, I've been to Thailand, Japan, Korea, China, Taiwan, Cambodia, Indonesia, and Malaysia(most of them multiple times).

And while there are beautiful women everywhere I think Japan stands out as the best place for pickup.

And it's all demographics:

• China has 1.3 BILLION people, that's 1,300 million people
• Japan has 130 million
• Thailand has about 70 million
• Indonesia, the most populous SE Asian country has 238 million
• Singapore has only 5 million

Based off these raw numbers, you'd think that China would be your best place to pickup.  However most foreign guys are reallly only interested in women of a certain socio-economic background--educated, middle class women and up.  

(Not all guys though...In Thailand, I have a friend who was explaining to his girlfriend that when you're looking at a world map, the edge of one side of the map leads to the edge of the OPPOSITE side of the map!  Another friend, used to quiz girls on their times tables!)

I read one statistic that says that of China's 1,300 million, only 60 million are middle class!

Contrast that with Japan where the middle class makes up 125 million.  Plus with China's one child policy and their preference for male children, the percentage of women in that 60 million is looking not so good.

Additionally, the large population means that there are more subcultures(the homogeneity of Singapore stands out here, *yawn*).

And while Indonesia has almost as many people as the US, the income per person there is lower than China...and it's muslim, which REALLY doesn't help you with getting chicks into bed.

I think this is why Japanese girls are so renowned all over the world.  That and their huge porn industry!

Want to Get Better With Women? There AreTwo Simple Ways to Put the Odds in Your Favor

There is so much information out there about meeting women and dating.  There's complete stories for you to repeat, games you can play, concepts to master, etc.

BUT, it really comes down to two things, and everything about picking up and dating women is at essence about these two things.  When you know and understand what these two things are, you can improve your success rate much more easily than most guys can.

Most guys who are learning this stuff want to know EVERYTHING.  In fact you're probably reading this because you're a logical guy who wants to know how to get from point A to point D and doesn't want to step out the door until you have full color map with all the detours highlighted in yellow so that you'll be ready for any and every contingency.

Unfortunately, what that means is that you're still sitting at home rather than having a great time with the ladies.  Whatever your level of skill with women is now, you can have more success just based on simple math.

Here it is, the first thing you need to do to improve your success with women:

1) Increase the total number of interactions you have with women

What a relief, right?  Because what it means, is that whatever your level of skill is with women right now, there are some that you could have success with.  Trust me on this.

Even the lamest of the lame guys get laid occasionally.  So you have to get out there and meet more women.  If you do that and nothing else, you will have more success--more phone numbers, more dates, and more sex.  You can't not--it's simple math.

And now the second thing:

2) Increase the effectiveness of each interaction

I'm talking about increasing those percentages, so that instead of 100 interactions to get 1 number, you only need 50 to get 1, and then 20 to get 1.  I'm talking about improving so that instead of 50 phone numbers to get one date, you only need 30, or only 10.

And most deliciously of all, going from needing to go on dates with 30 women to have sex with 1, you can reduce that number to 10 or even 5. I bet that would make dating a lot more exciting for you, wouldn't it?

You need a two pronged attack. 

When my father was a kid, he used to tell my grandmother that he was worried about becoming perfect.  Her answer, "No danger".

Instead of worrying about being perfect, go out there and put those numbers in your favor.  Because you can have more success if you change nothing at all about yourself, and with even small improvements you can make that success come faster.

Do Women Really Want Adventure?

First, the definition(taken from dictionary.com)

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Adventure:
–noun

1. an exciting or very unusual experience.

2. participation in exciting undertakings or enterprises: the spirit of adventure.

3. a bold, usually risky undertaking; hazardous action of uncertain outcome.

4. a commercial or financial speculation of any kind; venture.
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Common wisdom is that everyone and especially women like adventure but as with most common wisdom, while it's not quite wrong, it's far from entirely right.

So, last time I was in Seoul again, I found myself once AGAIN looking for a new girl.  With my rather unconventional lifestyle and frequent travel, it's worked out that every time I've gotten a girl here, the relationship hasn't continued when I've returned.

This is frustratingly annoying to say the least.  There are some guys that are always out for novelty and the thrill of the hunt, but that's not my bag.  As a friend of mine said, "I don't like to hunt 'em, I like to farm 'em!"

While I've been here I've had a chance to chill out, read, exercise and muse over things while living with eNeRGy, and BlueM and Vision just upstairs.  That means I get a constant stream of data about the pickup and dating scene here and of course a broad range of guys coming at it from different angles.

And while I was walking down to get some food from the local "Kimbap Heaven" restaurant, I had a realization about the nature of adventure and what it means when it comes to dating and relationships.

We make a big mistake when we assume that more is better.  So if you take a guy who enjoys his typical 9-5 job and is gradually working his way up the corporate ladder and enjoys rock climbing on weekends, that's pretty cool.  No doubt about that.

But it begs the question, of whether the guy who sold his company for tens of millions of dollars and now spends his time traveling the world living where he wants to live when he wants to live there, is better. 

This second guy is definitely more exciting and adventurous but he's beyond the comfort zone of most women.  Even though they may be very interested and think it's a extremely cool lifestyle, that's a far cry from actually being with him.

The vast majority of women would go with guy number 1 any day of the week over guy number 2. 

And the reason is that guy number 2 is a big risk.  She has to leave her regular work-a-day lifestyle, quit her job, give up her career so she can have no idea where she'll be or what she'll be doing 6 months from now.

And that is more pressure than most women can bear--especially asian women.

I was thinking about this recently because I'm here in Phuket, Thailand which is a developing country at best and even here, women are not rushing to marry a foreigner and run off to Europe or America.  They want to stay here where it's comfortable.

I was talking to a long term resident here and he said that most guys think they'll come over here, find a "nice" woman and take her bag, but more often than not, when he sends that money over for a plane ticket instead of buying a ticket she gets herself some new clothes and gold for her mom.

That explains a lot, but now you're wondering how you can use this information and I'll cover that in another post.

Why Great Dates Can Get You Nowhere with Women

I recently read a very interesting book called, Spin Selling, which talks about some of the differences between sales with a short cycle(the buyer makes the decision then and there) vs. long cycle(where the buyer will go through several steps before making a buying decision).

There were several differences that are applicable to dating, and one of the ones that struck me most powerfully is that most of the selling process takes place when the salesman IS NOT there!

Think of the car buyer.  He decides he wants a new car.  He's seen some cool cars around, he's talked to some friends and family about it; he looked on the internet.  Then he goes to the dealership.  He talks it over, asking about features availability, pricing and financing.

Then he goes back home to think about it some more.  Do some more research on the internet and talk it over more with his friends and family, to get their input and feedback.  Perhaps he goes to a few different dealerships.

So as you can see, the time that he spends with any one salesman is quite small compared to the total time he spends in the buying process.  Buying a car, is a public experience.  He doesn't want everyone he knows to see him pay too much for a shit car.  He doesn't want to be the laughing stock of the office.

And dating is a lot like this too.  Sure, the time when you are in front of the girl is important, but what's even more important is what she's thinking about you and the conversations she's having with her friends about you when you're not there.

People make decisions based on emotions, but it is your job to also provide enough reasons for her to have logical explanations and rationalizations why being with you is an awesome decision.

Imagine this scenario...girl has a date, and right after she calls up her friend to tell her about the great time she had.  The friend says, "Tell me about him, what does he do?"  And she answers, "He's cute and he's a successful lawyer," and BOOM instant value is projected onto him by her friend and she gets validation for snagging a catch.

The label, "successful lawyer" is short hand for all sorts of positive qualities that imply that this guy is a great mate even though he may actually be a heartless ass.  But she can pride herself on having made a good choice.

In fact if she marries this guy and then things don't go so well, instead of everyone standing around saying, "I told you so," they'll be standing around, wondering how this could have happened--taking the responsability away from her so she becomes the helpless victim of chance.

So, while good exciting dates are important, what's even more important is building your value in ways that when you're not right there in front of her she has positive ammunition to justify to herself and others why being with you and continuing to see you is a good idea.

Quick Tip for Meeting Women #4: Planning Sexcalation Locations

In scheduling a girl for Karaoke for the Day2, you are trying to go straight for a Sexcalation Location(a place where sex can happen). Unless you gamed the girl really well, on the Day 1 to the point where she actually wanted to fuck you THAT DAY without triggering Anti-Slut Defense, she's going to need more comfort before she'll be willing to be fully isolated with you in an SL.

Start somewhere public that there could be no objection to(coffee shop, shopping, a park, etc.) and THEN move her to the SL later once you've built up enough comfort.

In the same way that women bring their friends for protection from doing what they want to do, but think they shouldn't women's ASD will be triggered if you set things up clumsily. Remember that it has to "just happen". If she agrees to go with you straight to a karaoke booth and the illusion of it "just happening" cannot be maintained.

Lead her to the sexcalation location after you've disengaged her critical factor(more on that later).

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Ok, This Is Interesting - Asian Dating Superstars Reviewed ... A Product Specifically For Asian Guys!

It's not everyday you come across a product specifically for Asian men only. I mean Asians have it hard sometimes, the media's not kind on them and then there are stereotypes like having a small dick and stuff like that.

That said, some of my best friends are Asian and they are some of the biggest pimps I have ever seen. They just seem to exude confidence from their skin pores.

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