Get Blown or Blown Out!
Wednesday, October 28, 2009 at 4:24AM ;)
Don't BE Samson - LEARN from SamsonOne-itis(noun):
1. the fixation by a guy (usually) on one girl, who he imbues with positive qualities(that she may not possess) or whose positive qualities are imbued with such value that all negative qualities are overlooked and/or rationalized away to the point that she seems to be totally irreplaceable as a potential partner for sex, dating, a relationship, marriage or all of the above.
2. a woman who a guy has one-itis for
3. (adjective) the state of having one-itis
One-itis is one of the most destructive forces known to man. Think Samson and Delilah. Think Bathsheba and King David. Think Cleopatra and Marc Antony. No matter how you look at it, the heedless chase for a particular woman has dealt a deadly blow to many a man.
Most men, when in the throes of one-itis spend more time thinking about whether they can continue to get the scraps thrown to them over whether their needs and desires are being met.
In fact, they are willing to sacrifice their needs and desires, if they think that living true to them could mean the loss of the girl. In short, they cannot walk away from a lose/win situation, where they themselves are the loser.
The philosophy of getting blown or blown out, as crude as it may sound, prevents men from falling into this trap. The trap of hopingwithout risking. Because most men would rather hope that things will change with their one-itis without doing anything about it than try to do something about it to find out that their hopes, aspirations, dreams and WILD FANTASIES will not be met.
They don't want to have their bubble burst so they opt to keep things pleasant.
When I exhort my clients to get blown or blown out it means to set standards for what they demand from the women in their lives and to hold fast to them.
It means that it's better to bring the relationship to a moment of crises where a woman has to make the final call whether she wants to be part of the crew, or jump ship.
Because in my world there are 3 kinds of women:
1. Family, friends and colleagues(ie I have no sexual interest or intent)
2. Women who are fun, that I love to spend time with and can learn a lot from who are sexually attracted to me
3. Women who are fun, that I love to spend time with and can learn a lot from me who like nothing more than jump my bones every chance they get.
There are so many of the 3rd, why bother with the 2nd?
Get blown or blown out!
Dating, Inner Game, Relationships, Self-Help | tagged Relationships, dating tips, sex
Reader Comments (7)
God,this article really stings,because I've been there.
However,I disagree about why bothering with the 2nd category.Mayn PUAs have the philosophy of not hanging out with women they're not banging. I love having female friends.
I understand what you mean and I have nothing against female friends if they are genuinely girls that you're not interested in. Most guys are friends with girls that they really want to be "more than friends" with.
However, you have to consider time-management. And given that there's only so much time in a day and only so many people you can see...
This rambling does present a very viable outlook on mentality. However, considering the "Asia-based Asian Girl Gaming Guru" does not even use proper English, nor even has the balls to provide any authenticity to an actual person (i.e. crediting his/her work with a name following the article), I must say that all-and-all this is a very good example of advertising and marketing. Make note of the portion where 'wild fantasies' is typed in all capital letters; it's mere psychology we all learned in high school. Well, except for the author of course who can't use the English language correctly. This is nothing more than an advertisement meant to lure in potential "sales" based on appealing to human nature. I don't mean to sound like a jerk, but in all honesty, would YOU seriously fork over $ to someone who ignores a spell-check before posting an article to the Internet...? I bet the capitalized 'you' caught your attention didn't it? See what I'm getting at; same tactics used here by boy/girl-genius who wrote this "Blog." The thought-process is indeed genuine, I don't discredit the reality of his/her words; the intent spawning from this malformed essay is what bothers me and I hope others will see that as well.
"Well, except for the author of course who can't use the English language correctly."
- This is a good example of incorrect grammar.
I really enjoyed this mail. It made me think about the girls I have been with and the ones I wanted to be with but failed to do so, (because I was too lame to go after what I wanted in case it got awkward between us).
Most blokes get "one-itis" at different stages in their lives, I have had many reactions to it, which have had symptoms such as whining to friends and chronic masturbation... alone. It it good to be aware of it, so if you have it at least you know what it is and can then maybe do something positive about it.
Keep the informative, helpful info coming... but best use spell check to stop the whining.
Thanks,
Aidan
Thank you for your considerate replies. And yes, this is pure marketing.
I don't write this blog for my health or because I'd rather be doing this than getting blown out. For those who may never spend I dime with me I hope you get tremendous value anyway.
For the rest of you I hope you buy ALL of my stuff.
Keep the comments coming, thanks.
Good article. It restates my own similar philosophy in a different and interesting way.
QUESTION:
As for the list of the 3 kinds of women in your world. Did you make a mistake in #2? For me it's:
1 Women I don't and wouldn't want to shag.
2 Women I enjoy spending time with and don't shag.
3 Women I enjoy spending time with and shag.
So did you mean "NOT sexually attracted to me" in #2?
COMMENT:
My way of putting things into perspective... When I get the old "can we just be friends" line, I say, "Sure! But when I'm deciding with whom to spend my limited free time and I have a choice between 1) a nice conversation with you, 2) a nice conversation with a girl who wants me, 3) a great conversation with my guy friends, or 4) spending time on me...guess where you'll be on the list?