The Way of the Superior Man
Friday, September 25, 2009 at 12:22AM ;)
This is a fantastic book. Fantastic as in, I've personally repurchased this at least FOUR times because for some people I felt the information in this book was too valuable for them to have to wait the week it might take for them to get it themselves.
Now I'm not saying that this book alone is enough to save a relationship that's in a total tailspin--what I AM saying though is that it will stabilize things and at least allow you to bring her in for a controlled crash landing.
It definitely helped one of my married buddies improve his already quite good marriage.
And if you're not in a relationship it will help you gear up for the next one and start it off on the right foot. This book is not only about relationships though.
In fact, good relationships are just one of the byproducts of the principles that David Deida discusses in the book. Because this book is about being a man, and your most internal native drives.
(Despite what he looks like, this guy can REALLY teach you something about being a man, just trust me on this, ok? He knows what he's talking about, mostly.)
If you've got a sack with a set of nuts swinging between your legs, this book is written for you. What you want; what you need; who you are at your core; it's in this book.
That's part of what makes this book so compelling because when I read it, it's all about ME! ME! ME! ME! ME!
And when you read it, it's all about YOU! YOU! YOU!
It's not so much a book that teaches you something new that you didn't know about yourself, it's more a book that says, "Hey, that's NORMAL! You're alright, kid. You're not all screwed up in the head like you think you are, it's just that you can't make fit a a square peg into a round hole, so it's ok to stop trying and just be comfortable as a square." (That didn't come out quite right, but you get the point).
Now, before you start asking, I don't agree with EVERYTHING written in this book. In fact, in some ways I find it way to conservative and pandering to the mainstream view of serial monogamy where you break up with someone and move on to the next because sexuality is supposed to be confined to one person at a time.
Any look at history will tell you that is a VERY new and somewhat unsuccessful model for relationships wherever you go in the world.
So while I disagree with David on a lot of his points of HOW relationships should run, he's right on about your desires, drives, feelings and struggles men face in this society.
My solutions are just a bit more...drastic, should we say?
In any case, GET THIS BOOK! You need it. It's easy to read and re-read(re-reading is highly recommended). Each chapter is a short snippet of a few pages that you could use some time to digest.
Leave it on your coffee table in front of the couch and just before you grab the remote, pick it up and read a chapter or two.
I know that The Way of the Superior Man was one of the key stones that put me where I am when it comes to character, and allowing myself to go for and have the relationships the way I wanted them, regardless of societal bounds.
In Korea you can order it at What the Book?
Reader Comments (3)
This is a great book that I got about halfway through the first time before I had to return it to a friend.I recently purchased my own copy,and can't wait to start reading it.Some of the things D.D. says have really opened my mind.
Definitely recommend this one. Cheap, easy to read, and great for setting your mind and life on track for bigger and better things.
It's required reading for all of our Approach Mastery boot camp and Remote Mentor Program Alumni. It's too good to pass up, and I think that pretty much everyone looks back wishing they'd gotten their hands on it sooner.
I know I did...